On Criticism

A continuation of a series covering Dale Carnegie's How To Win Friends and Influence People

Big Takeaway

Criticizing people is hurtful, ineffective, selfish, apathetic, and ultimately only leads to feelings of resentment, demoralization, and frustrated justification.

  • We must always keep in mind that people are emotional creatures and are largely motivated by pride and vanity
  • Though people are very quick to condemn others for their shortcomings, they are just as quick to justify, understand, and absolve themselves of their own.
  • Rather than fixing the problem, criticism largely leaves a person feeling resentful, discouraged, and only results in them further justifying their actions.
  • Rather than criticizing others we should pause to place ourselves in their shoes and understand the situation from their point of view.
  • The best way to invoke change in someone is by openly exemplifying the exact behavior that you would like to see them display.